I’m not entirely sure what “press this” entails, but I’m trying it out for the first time, as I really liked this blog post!
I’m not entirely sure what “press this” entails, but I’m trying it out for the first time, as I really liked this blog post!
How refreshing! A Saturday morning run, the longest I’ve ever run ( as I’m not much of a runner!) , and I am so grateful for the start to a great day!
Wanted to share this, as this website is a great resource to help monitor how much activity one has gotten, be it walking, running, or other activities…
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From Marc and Angel Hack Life:
16 Things Emotionally Strong People Don’t Do
You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and twice as capable as you have ever imagined.
When you add up nearly a decade worth of online conversations with our community of readers, the live events we’ve hosted in support of our book, and thousands of one-on-one coaching sessions with clients, Marc and I have a lot of experience when it comes to helping people find and resolve the pain points that have been holding them back. But I am still frequently surprised by the interesting ways people frame questions about their challenges.
Last night a reader named Karla sent me an email that caught my attention, simply because the subject of her email was: “Things Emotionally Strong People Don’t Do” (An interesting title for an article, I thought.)
Part of Karla’s email read: “I love your book. It has helped me get through some seriously tough times. But even though I’ve made progress, I often struggle with emotional weakness. I persistently resist what I know I need to do for myself. So I was wondering, what do emotionally strong people NOT do? The reason I ask is that I’ve spent a lot of time implementing positive habits in my life, but I haven’t really focused on removing any (parallel) bad habits.”
There are a million ways to answer this question (especially as it relates to Karla’s unique life situation), but since emotional weakness is something all of us struggle with at times, I figured I’d take a stab at answering Karla’s question in a general sense, for all of us.
Here are some things emotionally strong people don’t do:
They don’t let negativity and drama get the best of them. – Your brain is a radio transmitter. It broadcasts thoughts, directions and vibrations into your life – you get to choose the station it’s tuned to. Emotionally strong people understand this and tune out negativity to make room for positivity. Be wise enough to follow in their footsteps. Walk away from the nonsense around you. Focus on the positives, and soon the negatives will be harder to see.
They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves. – Emotionally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life, work on changing what can be changed, and keep in mind that life isn’t always easy or fair. In the end, happiness is not the absence of problems, but simply the ability to deal well with them. So look at what you have, instead of what you have lost. Because it’s not what the world takes away from you that counts; it’s what you do with what you have left.
They don’t think they need more to be happy. – Emotionally strong people know that happiness is a mindset of appreciation. In other words, happiness doesn’t start when “this, that or the other thing” is resolved. Happiness is what happens now when you appreciate what you have. (Read Authentic Happiness.)
They don’t compare their journey to everyone else’s. – Social comparison is the thief of happiness. Do YOUR best and don’t compare your progress with that of others. They aren’t YOU. We all need our own time to travel our own distance. Emotionally strong people know this is the truth, and they live by it.
They don’t envy and resent other people’s success. – Emotionally strong people can genuinely appreciate and celebrate other people’s success. They don’t grow envious or feel cheated when others achieve something they are trying to achieve. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success. True confidence has no room for envy and resentment. When you know you are great, you have no reason to hate.
They don’t expect everything to be easy. – Emotionally strong people don’t view failures and delays as reasons to give up. Instead,they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right. Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, emotionally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their efforts and skills to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.
They don’t say, “I can’t.” – As Henry Ford put it, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.” Emotionally strong people know this is true. If you really want to do something, you can and you will find a way. If you don’t, you will surely find a long list of excuses. So stop saying “I wish” and start saying “I will.” Turn your “can’ts” into “cans” and your dreams into plans.
They don’t let fleeting temptations distract them from their dreams. – Don’t let the temptations of today distract you from what you deserve. Stay emotionally strong. Do what you have to do now so you can do what you want to do later.
They don’t get impatient and settle. – Good things don’t come to those who wait. Good things come to those who are patient… while working hard for what they want most in life. If you know what you want, if you can see it, feel it and move toward it in some small way every single day… it has to happen. Be patient and keep working. That’s what emotionally strong people do. (Read Awaken the Giant Within.)
They don’t make the same exact mistakes over and over again. – You can’t make the same mistake twice. Because the second time you make it, it’s no longer a mistake, it’s a choice. Emotionally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating the same mistakes over and over. Instead, they grow and move on to better decisions and new lessons.
They don’t resist change. – Emotionally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change into their life and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt. Change happens for a reason. Roll with it! It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it.
They don’t waste time and energy on things they can’t control. – You won’t hear an emotionally strong person complaining over traffic jams and rainy days. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. And above all, they recognize that sometimes the only thing they can control is their attitude. After all, inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow an uncontrollable event or person to control your emotions.
They don’t hang on every word other people say about them. – Emotionally strong people listen to their own heart and intuition, not the peanut gallery. So try not to take things other people say about you too personally. What they think and say is a reflection of them, not you. Ultimately, you can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can do is change how you react and who you choose to be around.
They don’t think everyone is out to get them. – Emotionally strong people choose to see the good in others. Because the truth is, the world is full of good people. Whoever says otherwise hasn’t looked around. So look around. Appreciate them. Connect and smile together. When you choose to see the good in others, you end up finding the good in yourself.
They don’t worry about pleasing everyone. – Emotionally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be compassionate and fair, but can handle other people being disappointed if they didn’t perfectly live up to their unfair expectations. The bottom line is, pleasing everyone is impossible. May the bridges you burn light your way. (Marc and I discuss this in detail in the “Relationships” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently
They don’t think it’s too late to start over. – Let go of the idea that it’s too late to start over. Remember, it’s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you don’t… even if it means beginning anew. Just because some things didn’t work out as you had expected, or didn’t happen as fast as you thought they would, is no excuse to give up on yourself. Time passes one way or the other. Do what you need to do so that, at the very least, you can look back someday and say, “I gave life my best shot.”
And remember, it only takes one idea, one second in time, one relationship, one dream, one leap of faith, to change everything, forever. So hang in there. Keep exercising your emotional strength.
…and when I saw this, it prompted me to change that….this was worthy of putting up:
Those who have less, Giving more:
Time: 1 minute per exercise
Sets: 2x through this circuit
Warm-up with a five-minute run/elliptical/rower/etc.
-Burpees (with or without jump upon standing)
-Basketball Jumps (shoot the basket, land at a different angle)
-Lunge, holding weights resting on shoulders, 30 seconds each side: down and up motion with body
-Take those same weights, and do bicep curls standing on one leg
-Triceps with one weight overhead (reach down your back, and extend)
-Power Jacks (wide-leg squat with hands resting on inner thighs, then jump legs together and arms up)
-Side-to-Side Abs: on hands, hop legs (feet together) side to side, trying to kick your backside each time you lift the feet off the ground
Repeat—If adventurous, begin with the run again, otherwise, from the top of the exercises.
Give yourself a solid, five-minute cool-down and stretch.
Trader Joe’s Favs:
Literally 110 calories and hardly any fat in 2 ½ cups! So good, and lots of fiber, too
Can I hear 12 grams of protein, no fat, and only 120 calories per cup? Yeah!
This is the incredibly smooth, lower sugar, and did I mention smooth, yogurt that is identical to the mysteriously different but wonderful Ireland had as it’s insanely inexpensive ‘generic brand’ of plain yogurt. Amazing. Add those frozen blueberries, banana, granola, cinnamon, and peanut butter…. And mmmm
In small quantities! Recently reading articles about the amazing benefits of cranberries—who knew they were such powerhouses?! Whole Foods has a particularly good overview of them on their website. Be careful, as sunflower oil and sugar have been added, but just A FEW of these atop almost anything are delish.
$0.19 each no matter what the size. Nothing more to say.
$1.99 for a good-size bag. Add to nearly every meal, be it a sandwich, salad, eggs, or a smoothie (yes, mix it in- you won’t taste the spinach, but you’ll get lots and lots of nutrients)
Big bag of broccoli is just $1.49 (beat that New Jersey!) and big bag of sliced multi-colored peppers for $1.69, I believe, and they have some neat not-your-everyday-in-a-bag veggies, too: Leeks ($1.99!), Asparagus, Pearl Onions, and more
Not in the past ten years has a delicious, large carton of freshly (aka you do it yourself in the store) ground coffee been consistently $4.99. Much larger than the small bags from Shop Rite (Mom, you should buy this one), and grinding it at purchase just makes it that much better— that smell is so wonderful. (Add a little cinnamon to the grinds when brewing to add in some extra nutrients and taste!)
Again, price is hard to beat for a large, dark glass jug of it. Extra Virgin, of course.
Big bag of oranges is $2.99. That means 9 smallish oranges for $3. $0.33 each. I have yet to find that beat.
Have you heard of Ezekiel bread? Well, that’s the kind I have been getting since college when an NYC friend hooked me onto it. I get the Trader Joe’s version, which is $3.49. At the rate I eat it, that is a good price. It is fantastic bread, though takes some adjusting to-It’s made with sprouted grains as opposed to flour. So, along with many other positives, you don’t get the heavy, tired feeling of eating wheat and you get lots more protein. Toasted is really where it shines. A nice little snack is a piece of the toast with a small spread of Smart Balance butter and cinnamon (there we go with that cinnamon again…)
–Almonds and Walnuts
16 ounces of nuts at prices that are less than Shop Rite (or Marsh for the Indiana people!)
Fantastic source of protein, a quick snack hard-boiled, and, at $1.99 per dozen, makes me seriously question going out for a $12 NY omelette…
The ones that are called something like Mini Soy Multigrain Crackers are my favorite. A hint of soy sauce does add some sodium, but all in all a great snack. Not wheat, so again, no heavy feeling, and they are tiny, so 35 is a serving at 130 calories and very little fat. Good ingredients, and with hummus, divine.
Well this list could go on and on, but I have to go to bed! Goodnight all, and dreams of Trader Joe’s!
This is a post I have been thinking about for months, and it is finally time to get it up here….
Actors Gratitude Journal
As a performer, one lives with a lot of rejection, long hours, running around in rain and sun, morning and night, hurry-up-and-waiting, and crabby people.
As a performer, one also lives his or her dreams, pursuing that passion which is so strong it drives one to follow those dreams despite any of the above.
Beside this HUGE reason an actor has for giving thanks, here are some of the simple, and not-so-simple, day-to-day positives that being an NYC actor brings~
Auditioning with Thanks…
-See your friends
-Meet new friends
-Get work done while at work….makes sense…but a lot of people don’t necessarily see it like that…
-Practice your craft (singing, performing monologues, dancing)
-Free dance class, sometimes with people you would pay big money to actually take from (i.e. Andy Blankenbeuler, Randy Skinner….for the non-musical theatre people reading this, let me know if you need some more details 😉 )
-Network…never know who will be sitting next to you
-See parts of the city (Chelsea one moment, Times Square the next, the random trip to Brooklyn….don’t get too lost!)
-Not have to sit at a desk
-Exercise (Not seeing noneq here, run to the next one, sign in, oh another where they are seeing us, run there….etc.)
-Learn from others….again, for free (overhearing monologues & songs, talking with people with other life experiences…)
-Become friends with Staples….print, copy, print, print…
-Find out from other performers about good classes, people, opportunities…
-And the simple but helpful pleasure of finding out where it is and the passcode to a restroom at the Actor’s Equity Building so can actually have a restroom to use…
(It’s 615 and in the stairwell near the third floor, by the way…)
This list could certainly go on, and I would absolutely love any comments anyone may have!
“The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.”